Specialist perspectives · Practical resources

When gambling is hard to control

The amount lost is only part of the picture. Repeatedly going beyond your intentions, trying to win back losses or organising life around gambling are reasons to pause and seek help, even if work and family life still look intact.

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Use this when

Use this when a promise or spending limit keeps failing, gambling is becoming harder to discuss, or someone else's gambling is affecting you.

Notice the gap between the plan and what happens

You might plan a short session, then keep going; try to recover a loss with another bet; or return after deciding to stop. Look at the pattern over time, including secrecy, preoccupation and the effect on sleep, relationships and responsibilities. You do not need to wait for a financial crisis before asking for help.

Gambling disorder is a recognised behavioural addiction involving impaired control and continuing harm. Assessment considers the wider pattern and other health problems, not simply a dollar amount. Gambling can also cause harm without meeting the criteria for a disorder. This guide does not diagnose either you or someone close to you.

Work out what the next bet is being asked to do

Notice the moment before gambling: an urge to recover money, escape a feeling, fill time, join friends or seek excitement. These are possibilities to explore, not assumptions about why everyone gambles. A useful question is: 'What am I hoping will feel different after this?'

Chasing a loss adds another uncertain bet; it does not turn gambling into a reliable way to repair the loss. The immediate task is to limit further harm and obtain help with the problem that is already there.

Put support around the difficult moment

A plan can include practical barriers as well as a decision. A gambling counsellor can help you consider self-exclusion, reducing exposure to gambling prompts and ways to protect essential spending. These measures support treatment; they are not a guarantee that an urge or a workaround will disappear.

BetStop covers Australian licensed online and phone wagering providers. It does not cover every form of gambling or illegal online services. Venue self-exclusion arrangements are separate. Check the scope of each option before relying on it, and consider confidential financial counselling if debts or essential expenses are involved.

Family members need care in their own right

If another person's gambling affects you, your distress and financial concerns deserve attention even if they do not want treatment. You can seek gambling support for yourself. You are not required to lend money, take on debt or become the sole monitor of another adult's behaviour.

Where money, threats or control are part of a relationship problem, seek individual safety and financial advice before announcing changes. A worksheet is not permission to take over someone else's accounts or to attempt a confrontation that could put you at risk.

Bring the pattern into a treatment conversation

Your General Practitioner can help assess gambling alongside mood, sleep, physical health, substance use and other concerns. Depending on your needs, care may involve gambling counselling, psychological treatment and Addiction Medicine assessment. It is possible to discuss options before you feel certain about every change.

Gambling Help Online and the Gambling Helpline, 1800 858 858, offer support across Australia, including for family and friends. Use the sheet to name the pattern, the harm that needs attention and one practical step. If there is an immediate safety concern, seek urgent help instead of completing the sheet.

For health professionals

A place in the clinical conversation

For health professionals: consider gambling harm alongside substance use and mental health, including suicide risk, financial distress and family safety. Harm can warrant support without a diagnosis. The sheet is a conversation aid, not a validated screening instrument or financial assessment.

Use the sheet alongside your clinical assessment. It does not produce a diagnosis, measure risk or determine treatment. If seeking a specialist opinion, state the clinical question and relevant history using the usual referral pathway.

A sheet to use, keep and revisit

My gambling pattern and next step

Review when urges, access to money or circumstances change, and bring the observations to a care appointment rather than treating the sheet as a score.

Download blank PDF Blank sheet: one A4 page · Longer answers may print over more pages

You can use the blank sheet on paper or type into it here. Typed answers stay in this open tab: they are not sent to the practice or saved by this website. Keep notes brief and leave out names and other identifying details. Print or save a PDF before leaving or refreshing the page. Use a private device and keep completed copies secure.

DR ERIC HADINATA ADDICTION MEDICINE SPECIALIST

My gambling pattern and next step

Use for your own gambling or the effects of someone else's. Describe the pattern without recording account numbers, debts in detail or another person's identifying information.

Safety first. For immediate danger or immediate risk of suicide, call 000. For crisis support, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. Gambling support: 1800 858 858. Seek safety advice before a financial confrontation that could increase danger.
Date / period:

1. Where intentions and actions separate

What keeps happening beyond the original plan?

2. The moment before, or the pattern I notice

My gambling: what draws me back? Someone else's: what situations or effects have I noticed, without guessing their motives?

3. The harm that needs attention now

Consider health, relationships, essentials and safety, not only money lost.

4. One practical safeguard

What barrier or support could help? Check its limits and safety.

5. A person or service to contact

Who can help with treatment, gambling support or financial concerns?

What will I do next, and when will I review whether it is helping?

An original discussion aid, not a diagnostic test or treatment plan. Do not delay urgent care to complete it. Call 000 in an emergency.

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Putting the picture together

Support for gambling and its effects.

Your General Practitioner can help you discuss gambling, its effects on your health and circumstances, and suitable further support. Family members and others affected by someone's gambling can also seek support for themselves, whether or not that person is ready for help.

If you are considering care with Dr Hadinata, the clinical referral information explains suitability and private-care arrangements. You and your GP can consider whether his service is appropriate for the questions you want addressed.

Related reading: Recovery for Real Life: book and public contents. This guide and sheet can be used on their own. The related book offers more detailed reading.

Sources & further reading

These sources inform the guide. The companion sheet is an original discussion aid and has not been validated as a clinical instrument. Sources checked on 27/09/2026.

General educational information. It cannot determine what is safe or appropriate for an individual. Do not change prescribed treatment without advice from your treating clinician.